UPDATE:
*typed on my phone as I was waiting for a bus last night*
Have you ever been friend-zoned? Seen zoned? Or all those other terms they use to connote you being placed in a specific, wholesome, non-romantic, or even non-sexual category of someone you like or may potentially like?
How did you feel?
Did it suck? Did you feel terrible? Or you were just, okay, next?
Somehow it depends, right? It depends on the intensity of your "likeness" to that person. Sometimes it just boosts our ego if we "manage" to have someone like us even though we don't really like them that much. And sometimes, sadly, when you're used to it, it doesn't really matter any more. What else is new...
You just shrug it off and wait for the next one (if there'll ever be a new one...)
You're probably asking in your mind, what about you, Piper? Have you ever experienced rejection?
Of course! Most definitely so.
In fact, one of the guys I really like (and likes me as well) rejected my advances on going to the next level. It initially hurt me but then after my infatuation stage for him, I realized it's all for the better.
How fast do you "get over" the rejection? For me, it depends. The bottom line is, I tell myself, is that I get over it. I will not allow myself to be a slave of something that isn't meant to happen --- I have forcing things (unless I know and am aware the other person likes it that way).
One of the things I do is ignore the person. Yes, call it bitter or anything synonymous, that has worked for me. I wouldn't wanna waste my time thinking why Cute Guy didn't make a move on me. It's Cute Guy's loss not mine. Ever watched the movie, All About Love starring Ashton Kutcher and Amanda Peet? It's one of my favorite movies especially Peet's character. She kept on insisting to Ashton Kutcher's character how he didn't make the first move. That's what I try to do.
I try not to make a very aggressive move BUT I do something to show I'm interested. If it didn't work then I'll accept it and move on. At least, in my mind, no regrets.
Life is too short to live in, "What ifs" or "I wonder what could have happened..."
Life is what you make of it.
You have one chance.
No regrets.
Wishing you a safe weekend,
★ Piper ★
