im married but i recently broke up with a girlfriend. we were an item for 4 years...
during the early times of our relationship, she knew her place and we even had a plan to continue with our current set-up even after she gets married or has another relationship... i was cool with it... until she asked me to leave wifey and gave me a deadline which i thought i could not meet...
we were alike in so many ways and i could have married her if not for the fact that i am already married
during those 4 years, we broke up only to get back together again 3 times... including this last one...
im still distraught about our breakup and its been a month now... i still dream of her, see images of her in my head... i couldn't get her off my mind... and its taking its toll...
i have no reason to leave my wife... we are okay... we don't fight... but we seldom talk... we go out but with our son... we don't have major issues...
i thought i did what i think is right by choosing to stay with my family because of our son...
then again, if what i did was right, how come it feels so wrong?
i have tried my best to get over her... and i couldn't imagine her being with someone else... but the grim reality is, i can't pa kasi of my status...
i couldn't talk to anyone because no one close to us knows about this... i know her friends and officemates... but it would be awkward for me to seek their advice about gf...
anyway, thanks for letting me rant... i would appreciate your advice..
Dear CC,
Thank you for trusting me with your problem and I hope that by sharing it here others can likewise give their own advice and well, hold their judgment. Pardon the post's title but we both know it is what is, right?
Anyway, from the looks of it, it seems that feelings-wise, it's the girlfriend that has it. However, you did say that before this 'breakup', you've also broken up 3 times before, am I correct? May I know the reasons behind these breakups? And if I may, the reason for the this last one?
I have heard of the reason "wala naman gaming problem, I'm staying coz of the kid/s" line and to be honest, I no longer find it a valid enough reason. I'm not saying that keeping your family intact isn't valid too but personally coming from a back ground where my parents "chose to do the right thing" is/was not a good experience. I would have personally preferred them separated than bear witness to my father's continuous wandering eye and my Mom's rants at him.
Give it a thought. A real deep and serious thought.
Thanks for writing!
To those reading, kindly give your advice to CC too :-)
★ Piper ★
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